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Is Chivalry Biblical?

December 17, 2014 — Leave a comment


In a generation of fatherless children chivalry seems to be growing extinct. One of the responsibilities of men who follow Christ is to teach the next generation of boys how to become men. According to up to 43% of kids today live in fatherless homes, and this is just one alarming statistic they have found. Becoming the right father is what God desires from us.

As part of being a father it is our responsibility to teach our sons how to treat women and to teach our daughters how they should expect to be treated. Jesus gave the ultimate example of chivalry by giving his life for his bride (the church). From this one simple act Jesus teaches us that the act of being chivalrous comes from putting others before yourself.

Here are a few examples of how to teach your kids to be chivalrous.
1. You are the example your kids learn from the most. If you aren’t showing chivalry then they won’t either.
2. Teach them by example how to say “sir” and “ma’am”.
3. Teach your boys to open doors for women, carry their bags, pull out their seat for them, and give up their seat if there isn’t one for a lady.

These are just a few ways to teach someone how to be chivalrous. This is a trait that brings honor to God so it should be important to us. Make a decision today to take time with your children to teach them how to be chivalrous.



Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. (‭Romans‬ ‭5‬:‭3-5‬ ESV)

Face it suffering happens. Broken relationships, flat tires, health problems, kids tantrums in the middle of Walmart and anything else that will make you want to cuss. However the bible tells us that suffering is a necessary part of growing. Every moment of suffering allows us a decision. We can gloat through our suffering or we can sprout through it.

Choosing to grow through suffering will help produce the endurance you will need in life to take on anything life has to throw at you. The endurance will produce a character that allow you to be influential to those around you.

Ask yourself a question. How influential are you as a Christian? Maybe you should try looking at the perceived suffering as an opportunity to grow in endurance, character, and the hope of Jesus Christ.

Prayer: God help me look at the moments in life that make me want to question why and draw me close to going crazy as times to grow! My hope is in you!


Through life we make a series of chronological decisions. From the time we start to develop our independency until the day we fully lose it these decisions define us. They influence who we are, where we go, and what we do in life. They can influence that amount of successful moments and also our moments of failure. Those decisions when played out create a moment in time. And if you’re like every other person who has ever lived you remember those moments, especially the ones that end in failure! For some reason we are incredible historians when it comes to our own faults and failures. But this is a different kind of historian that you take on. This historian seems to have one job…… remind. We constantly remind ourselves of the horrible moments that we made while at the same time we are placing them in a vault that is kept in the deepest, darkest corner of our hearts for no one else to ever know about.

Occasionally people try to confront and overcome these retched moments but cannot endure the shame that comes back with them. Others will try to run from them by moving from town to town or from person to person, essentially trying to create more moments that will mask the old ones. But the shame never seems to leave. Pete Wilson, author of “Let Hope In“, says, “Shame is the heart disease of every era. People are dying from it – some quickly, others slowly.” We constantly try to figure out what to do with this shame and the definition it brings to our lives. Shame tells us that we don’t fit we don’t belong, and we don’t deserve. And more importantly it convinces us that we don’t deserve to be deserved. But the truth is…….we never deserved to be deserved! In order to deserve something you must have value. But your value isn’t generated by you, it can’t be! The only reason we have value is because God gives it to us. But instead we try measuring our value by ratio of good moments to bad moments in our life. Shame is not produced by past events. Shame is produced by what we believe about those events. Quit believing those past moments are what gives you value! You are valued because He values you enough to take your shame upon himself for you!

Pastor Aaron

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This week is kids/student appreciation week @FFWC and I have had the privilege to show gratitude and appreciation where it is due. I wish we were able to give these staff what they deserve, a two year all expenses paid trip to Hawaii. But in all reality the small things that we are able to do for them do not even remotely compare to what they truly deserve.
What they do is truly unique! Let’s face it we are all not cut out to be teachers of the next generation. Bad things would happen if I was required to fill that spot. FACT: Kids/youth would die or I would go insane. That may be a slight exaggeration but must of can relate to that analogy. But our staff has it figured out! They understand the future of our gospel is dependent upon the next generation to learn it.

This week I have taken some extra time to reflect upon the importance of the teachers of our next generation. These people are detrimental to the future viability of the church. If you haven’t told your kids/student staff how much you appreciate them…… couldn’t do it fast enough. But don’t stop with a thank you, showing interest and support are also just as important.


REverse psychology

September 6, 2011 — 1 Comment


I read a verse this morning that says that God’s grace is freely given to us in the appropriate amount. This got my mind jogging (the 50 degree weather swing may have had something to do with it as well). If God’s grace is given to us, his children, then we know it cannot be earned. A gift is given with no merit involved.

So why is it given in appropriate proportions? Do some people need more grace than others? I think we should let our pasts answer that question…..however, it is true that we all need and needed that grace that is only given by Christ.

Many people think that if it was given to them then they own it. I would argue this point. I would argue that you own the portion that God graced you with to cover your past mistakes. The rest was given for you to manage. Yes manage, manage the same way we are suppose to handle God’s money. The bible supports this by telling time and time again the difficulties that come when we start to think that we OWN OUR MONEY. “It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven.” The greatest part about having money is helping others (whether it be through tithes or personal offerings to others).

In this mindset why do we, and I mean we, find it so difficult to give others some of the grace that God has portioned us with. I’m preaching to the choir on this one… is extremely hard to show grace to the idiot who cuts you off in traffic, the indecisive fool that takes 10 minutes to order his food in a FAST FOOD drive in, the unthoughtful liar of a coworker who takes glory for something you have done, etc. This world is full of people who are unworthy of grace! But here is the catcher, God freely gave it to us when we were unworthy so that we could freely give it to others!
God gives us the appropriate proportioned amount of grace so we could forgive and forget. Grace like that will precede the undeniable love of Christ that has the power to change someone’s life forever. “Forgive others so that God will forgive you.”


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Cor. 13:7 NIV)

This is by far one of my favorite passages in the bible. The word love has taken on so many different meanings over time and gets thrown around and used so much that it loses it’s meaning. Love is a serious word and when we use it we should take it seriously. I am not talking about how we say we “love” cheeseburgers, or I “love” Alabama football…those are just sayings. I am talking about love for people and those around us. If we focus on loving people the way God loves us, the patience, the kindness, and all the other traits of love will find their way out. Today my challenge to you is to love…love your spouse, your kids, your friends, your co-workers, your neighbors, and most of all your enemies and see what a difference it will make in your life and and all your relationships.

Just Keep Livin’


Romans 1:1 Paul, a servant of Christ Jesus, called to be an apostle and set apart for the gospel of God—

Paul is thought of as one of the most eloquent writers in the bible. His words have affected people well after his death. His incredible touch on humanity is considered as one of the greatest, ever! Saying that Paul was a superhero Christian is putting it lightly! So many times I have looked for pity for the circumstantial events that have taken place during my Christian walk…..maybe even blaming them on the relationship I have with Christ. The “this never would have happened if i wasn’t a Christian” mentality would kick in. Then I started reading about Paul’s life and learned to quickly recant my pity party. Paul was accused, disrespected, rejected, tormented, and thrown into jail in about every town he traveled to, yet he faithfully and joyfully continued to serve God. Paul just didn’t serve…..Paul lived life as a servant, happy to be in that position! Even though Paul was ridiculed and treated like trash while living a life for Christ he knew that his happiness was with Christ. He made a decision after getting knocked off his donkey to live a life that coincided with his new-found beliefs. Nothing or no one would keep him from serving by sharing the love of Christ with others.

Paul’s life can be summed up in one sentence. He was called to be an APOSTLE and SET APART for the gospel.  The definition of an apostle is someone who is a vigorous and pioneering advocate or supporter of a particular policy, idea, or cause. Paul took this definition to a holy notha level because he believed that his life was set apart for a reason.

Could your life have reason? Could you impact people the way Paul did? The answer for everyone is, YES! Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. A future filled with happiness is waiting. Make the choice……..Paul went from a Christian killer to a Christian thriller in one day. The only thing you need for your life to change direction on a dime is Christ!

Christ is the reason that my life has reason!

~ Aaron