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Is Chivalry Biblical?

December 17, 2014 — Leave a comment


In a generation of fatherless children chivalry seems to be growing extinct. One of the responsibilities of men who follow Christ is to teach the next generation of boys how to become men. According to up to 43% of kids today live in fatherless homes, and this is just one alarming statistic they have found. Becoming the right father is what God desires from us.

As part of being a father it is our responsibility to teach our sons how to treat women and to teach our daughters how they should expect to be treated. Jesus gave the ultimate example of chivalry by giving his life for his bride (the church). From this one simple act Jesus teaches us that the act of being chivalrous comes from putting others before yourself.

Here are a few examples of how to teach your kids to be chivalrous.
1. You are the example your kids learn from the most. If you aren’t showing chivalry then they won’t either.
2. Teach them by example how to say “sir” and “ma’am”.
3. Teach your boys to open doors for women, carry their bags, pull out their seat for them, and give up their seat if there isn’t one for a lady.

These are just a few ways to teach someone how to be chivalrous. This is a trait that brings honor to God so it should be important to us. Make a decision today to take time with your children to teach them how to be chivalrous.



May 18, 2013 — Leave a comment

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. (Ephesians 1:3, 4 ESV)

Over the next couple months our church will be going through a series based on Ephesians. Ephesians, written by the apostle Paul and inspired by God, is a letter to the church/saints/sinners regarding how we view ourselves and why. Over the next several weeks I will be breaking down some of the passage from Ephesians to prompt thought, inspiration, and hopefully enlightenment.


A couple things that jump out at me from this passage is:

a.) our blessings are “in Christ”

It’s easy at times to think that our blessings come from our hard work, dedication, sweat, thinking capacities, etc. However, it’s true to that any blessing, big or small, comes from him. This way of thinking is preceded by the understanding that God owns everything and if any of his items end up in our possession it is surely not because of the “good” that we have done, rather its the “good” that is in His son.

b.) He (God) “chose” us before He created the world.

Warning: this thought has the potential to be life-changing! To understand that you were “chosen” even before the foundations of the world were established gives a hope that we have a purpose in life. No one can “choose” something without having a thought correlating with the item chosen. God chose you and assigned a specific thought and purpose to you.

Finding Your Identity

January 6, 2013 — Leave a comment

At times, if your like any other person on this planet, there may be periods of time in which you struggle with your identity. Depending on the individual that period of time could be short or overwhelmingly long. Currently our society breeds a “we are what we own” mindset. Our commercialized coalition of comrades decide who is allowed in and who is shunned from our circles by the brand-names that surround an individual. Conveniently eradicating the process of looking at a persons heart to see what kind of human he or she is can be a dangerous mistake to our relationship with Christ. Looking past the designer jeans, no matter how bedazzled they are, and setting your pride aside to ride in a “gently used” vehicle with someone can show more about who you are rather than the make of car you care to ride in.

But this concept requires some reflection on your part. Go ahead, take a look at your circle of friends. Do they all wear the same brands of clothing? Do they all drive new mid-sized SUVs? Do they all belong to the same club? Chances are the majority of the circle of your friends are very similar. Sometimes, unknowingly, you find yourself surrounded by a group of friends who hold a material standard of acceptance. This happens because of a mistaken identity. We conform to society standards and buy into the philosophy of “we are what we own” and search for happiness in purchases of unwarranted items that are overpriced to be accepted by people we don’t even like because we are worried how people view us and the type of people they see us with.

This poses a great problem for Christians because when we identify ourselves and others by material things our identity becomes an idolatry. Our identity is NOT found in what we own, instead our identity is found in who found us. Settling for an identity in anything other than Christ himself is selling out for idolatry. Your, my, Our identity was set by the sacrifice that Christ made on the cross. Trying to find an identity through anything other than Christ would be short-handing the his completed work! Your identity is found in the I AM!