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Is Chivalry Biblical?

December 17, 2014 — Leave a comment


In a generation of fatherless children chivalry seems to be growing extinct. One of the responsibilities of men who follow Christ is to teach the next generation of boys how to become men. According to up to 43% of kids today live in fatherless homes, and this is just one alarming statistic they have found. Becoming the right father is what God desires from us.

As part of being a father it is our responsibility to teach our sons how to treat women and to teach our daughters how they should expect to be treated. Jesus gave the ultimate example of chivalry by giving his life for his bride (the church). From this one simple act Jesus teaches us that the act of being chivalrous comes from putting others before yourself.

Here are a few examples of how to teach your kids to be chivalrous.
1. You are the example your kids learn from the most. If you aren’t showing chivalry then they won’t either.
2. Teach them by example how to say “sir” and “ma’am”.
3. Teach your boys to open doors for women, carry their bags, pull out their seat for them, and give up their seat if there isn’t one for a lady.

These are just a few ways to teach someone how to be chivalrous. This is a trait that brings honor to God so it should be important to us. Make a decision today to take time with your children to teach them how to be chivalrous.



SOAP = scripture, observation, application, and prayer.

S : Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast to the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I may be proud that I did not run in vain or labor in vain. (Philippians 2:14-16 ESV)

O : Surely Paul didn’t mean “all” things right? That must be a misprint or bad translation! Unfortunately I have tried about every version of the bible that Youversion offers and they all say either “all things” or “in everything”. Things just got real! Let’s be honest we live in a culture where grumbling and disputing are second nature to us. Heck, most of the time it’s encouraged by those around us. But if we are going to believe in all of the beneficial scriptures about love, grace, and salvation then we have to believe in the scriptures like this as well. All or nothing baby! We don’t get the freedom to create our own meology from bible by picking and choosing the scriptures we want to follow and the ones we don’t want to follow.

In the middle of what Paul calls a “crooked and twisted” culture being abstinent from grumbling and disputing is a great way to set yourself apart. It’s easy to speak negative words in a negative world but it takes an individual who has come face to face with a life-changing love to speak positive words in negative world. This is accomplished by holding fast to the gospel and what it means for your life. Though you may be persecuted now……your reward is eternal.

A : Paul is adamant about not complaining because he believes that if a Christian is seen or heard grumbling and disputing it can take away from the works they have done, whether that work be by personal testimony, teaching, discipleship, etc. It is the classic one step forward and two steps back scenario. Make a decision today to not complain, to not speak negatively no matter what the situation is or who it involves. Speak life!

P : God help me be incredibly optimistic today. Help me take a step back and see that you are working for my good in “all things” instead of being negative toward most things. I want to do this because your Word directs it and I don’t want to see the seeds I have sewn by sharing your gospel wasted because of my bad attitude! Thank you for your blessings! Amen.


May 18, 2013 — Leave a comment

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. (Ephesians 1:3, 4 ESV)

Over the next couple months our church will be going through a series based on Ephesians. Ephesians, written by the apostle Paul and inspired by God, is a letter to the church/saints/sinners regarding how we view ourselves and why. Over the next several weeks I will be breaking down some of the passage from Ephesians to prompt thought, inspiration, and hopefully enlightenment.


A couple things that jump out at me from this passage is:

a.) our blessings are “in Christ”

It’s easy at times to think that our blessings come from our hard work, dedication, sweat, thinking capacities, etc. However, it’s true to that any blessing, big or small, comes from him. This way of thinking is preceded by the understanding that God owns everything and if any of his items end up in our possession it is surely not because of the “good” that we have done, rather its the “good” that is in His son.

b.) He (God) “chose” us before He created the world.

Warning: this thought has the potential to be life-changing! To understand that you were “chosen” even before the foundations of the world were established gives a hope that we have a purpose in life. No one can “choose” something without having a thought correlating with the item chosen. God chose you and assigned a specific thought and purpose to you.